Nervous groom - Picture by Hayley Ruth Photography

What Terrifies Men About Weddings

On first inspection you’d think a wedding would rank somewhere between, “Small girl with ice-cream” and “parcel delivery” on your average bloke’s internal list of terrifying situations. But when you start to break it down the Big Day contains many situations that rank way higher on the Terrifying-O-Meter. Perhaps even somewhere between “Rooney broken bone” and “getting things caught in zips”. So what is it that’s giving your groom, best man or father of the bride a nasty case of wedding nerves?

Nervous groom - Picture by Hayley Ruth Photography

Walking Down the Aisle

Sounds stupid doesn’t it? The bride’s the one who has to do the aisle-walking dressed in the big frock and pokey shoes. Yet the father of the bride is the one who’s sweating over it.

Why? Well mainly because it’s his big moment. All those eyes turn towards him, he has to stick to that weird slow-walk rhythm, and he knows that at the end of the aisle he has to hand his daughter over to some spotty oik he’s only met 12 times.

How to combat: Practice makes perfect on the walk. Also, try to have the big, “You know I’ll always love you Dad” talk a month or so before, not in the car on the way to the church.

Saying His Vows Right

I do. Just two little words that give men more problems than nearly any others. In this case though it’s not the weight of the ceremony or the pressures of commitment that petrify him. It’s the sheer bloody simplicity. Someone says the words and you just have to repeat them; that’s easy! Exactly, so you’d be really stupid if you messed them up, wouldn’t you?

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Destination wedding couple kissing on beach

Top Tips for a Destination Wedding

Destination wedding couple kissing on beach

Michelle from Pierre Carr shares her top tips for a destination wedding…

A large majority of couples are now paying for their own weddings. Also, more couple are choosing to get married somewhere exotic with close friends and family looking on. The destination wedding has become increasingly popular.

According to Mintel, one in six, that’s 16% of British weddings, now takes place abroad. That equates to an estimated 51,300 overseas weddings, a massive 43% increase since 2003.

By mixing great weather with high standards of service, UK couples now realise that an overseas wedding can be the way to go. However, whilst many brides dream of a wedding abroad there are many reasons why many back out.

To help dispel these reasons here’s a list of tips on how to make destination weddings possible.

1. Cost

The average wedding in the UK costs £20,000. Your money can go a lot further abroad, depending on the exchange rate.

Look for Offers

Hotels have lots of offers. If you stay in the hotel for x number of nights you can get your wedding free. Or if your guests stay for at least three nights you can get your accommodation free. So check the possibilities at your chosen venue.

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The Ties That Bind

Ties. Actually, let’s narrow things down a bit: wedding ties. Actually, I’m in a digressive mood so let’s start not with ties but with handfasting. Did you know that in different cultures (notably European and pagan cultures) they represented the idea of marriage not just with tiny Shepherds Pie canapés and expensive dresses, but by tying the hands of the bride and groom together? Cool, huh?

Man doing up tie

Often each of the guests secured a cord around the couples’ joined hands. This symbolised not just their togetherness, but the guests’ complicity in joining them together.

I think that’s lovely. Just think, if you’re angry about how much you’ve had to pay for your hotel you could tie your cord really tight, constrict the blood flow in their hands and laugh as their hands dropped off. That’ll teach them to not block book the local Travelodge.

Wedding ties and specifically how to tie them is one of the things that as a groom you probably won’t think about until the morning of the wedding. At which point knowing how to tie a cravat, or execute the perfect Four In Hand will make you the coolest Mother Hubbard in the room.

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Bride putting wedding ring on groom's finger

What Material Should You Use for Your Wedding Ring?

There was an almighty kerfuffle recently over choosing which precious metal to select for your wedding ring. From the reaction it seems that blokes are almighty metal snobs and have thought long and hard about what to put on their fingers.

Bride putting wedding ring on groom's finger

Perhaps the point is that as the only piece of jewellery many of us wear it’s something we put a lot of time and thought into. Either that or we’ve all seen Lord of the Rings wayyyy too many times.

So to bring you up to speed I thought it might be nice to look at some of the less-well known ring materials.


Yes, really. A wooden wedding ring is an option for the green-minded groom. Either on its own or combined with other precious metals (such as gold or platinum), it’s possible to craft polished wood into a striking wedding band.

The downsides are it’s far more vulnerable to damage and destruction than a metal ring, it has no intrinsic value and is more difficult to keep clean.

What’s the damage (based on a standard 4mm N sized band)? For a white gold ring with an oak inlay – £481.55

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Wedding guests conga - A Wedstock Wedding in Hertfordshire

How Do You Enjoy Your Wedding Day?

What a stupid title – it’s obvious how you enjoy your wedding day! After all, if you can’t enjoy your wedding day, you’re in a pretty bad shape for the rest of the days, aren’t you?

Well, yes. In theory. In theory on your wedding day you get to see all your friends and family. You get to dance badly, look great, and eat food and drink that you’ve selected to reflect your tastes. Best of all you get to stand in front of all those important people and declare how much you love your other half. What’s not to enjoy?

Wedding guests conga - A Wedstock Wedding in Hertfordshire

In fact, there are various reasons that the reality of the day doesn’t match up to the theory and you end up feeling short-changed.

Perhaps foremost among the day ruiners are wedding nerves. This could be a fear that something will go wrong, or you’ll forget something. In this case it’s the expectation of perfection that causes the problems.

The simplest solution to this is to get comfortable with the fact that your Perfect Day won’t be perfect. Someone will get too drunk, someone’s confetti will fall out of the box in a clump, and someone will be blinking on one of the photos.

But that’s all ok. Perfect is unattainable. What you’re going to have is a So-Good-It-Was-Practically-Perfect Day.

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