Nervous groom - Picture by Hayley Ruth Photography

What Terrifies Men About Weddings

On first inspection you’d think a wedding would rank somewhere between, “Small girl with ice-cream” and “parcel delivery” on your average bloke’s internal list of terrifying situations. But when you start to break it down the Big Day contains many situations that rank way higher on the Terrifying-O-Meter. Perhaps even somewhere between “Rooney broken bone” and “getting things caught in zips”. So what is it that’s giving your groom, best man or father of the bride a nasty case of wedding nerves?

Nervous groom - Picture by Hayley Ruth Photography

Walking Down the Aisle

Sounds stupid doesn’t it? The bride’s the one who has to do the aisle-walking dressed in the big frock and pokey shoes. Yet the father of the bride is the one who’s sweating over it.

Why? Well mainly because it’s his big moment. All those eyes turn towards him, he has to stick to that weird slow-walk rhythm, and he knows that at the end of the aisle he has to hand his daughter over to some spotty oik he’s only met 12 times.

How to combat: Practice makes perfect on the walk. Also, try to have the big, “You know I’ll always love you Dad” talk a month or so before, not in the car on the way to the church.

Saying His Vows Right

I do. Just two little words that give men more problems than nearly any others. In this case though it’s not the weight of the ceremony or the pressures of commitment that petrify him. It’s the sheer bloody simplicity. Someone says the words and you just have to repeat them; that’s easy! Exactly, so you’d be really stupid if you messed them up, wouldn’t you?

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Wedding guests conga - A Wedstock Wedding in Hertfordshire

How Do You Enjoy Your Wedding Day?

What a stupid title – it’s obvious how you enjoy your wedding day! After all, if you can’t enjoy your wedding day, you’re in a pretty bad shape for the rest of the days, aren’t you?

Well, yes. In theory. In theory on your wedding day you get to see all your friends and family. You get to dance badly, look great, and eat food and drink that you’ve selected to reflect your tastes. Best of all you get to stand in front of all those important people and declare how much you love your other half. What’s not to enjoy?

Wedding guests conga - A Wedstock Wedding in Hertfordshire

In fact, there are various reasons that the reality of the day doesn’t match up to the theory and you end up feeling short-changed.

Perhaps foremost among the day ruiners are wedding nerves. This could be a fear that something will go wrong, or you’ll forget something. In this case it’s the expectation of perfection that causes the problems.

The simplest solution to this is to get comfortable with the fact that your Perfect Day won’t be perfect. Someone will get too drunk, someone’s confetti will fall out of the box in a clump, and someone will be blinking on one of the photos.

But that’s all ok. Perfect is unattainable. What you’re going to have is a So-Good-It-Was-Practically-Perfect Day.

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Wedding guests dressed as John Lennon and Yoko Ono - Martins Kikulis Photography

Five Reasons Why You Should Listen to the Groom’s Weird Wedding Ideas

One of the main accusations that gets thrown at grooms’ wedding planning ideas is that, well, they’re often a bit weird. He wants to wear an Elvis jumpsuit, or have thrash metal as the arrival music. You know the sort of thing.

Wedding guests dressed as John Lennon and Yoko Ono - Martins Kikulis Photography

I thought I’d try and mount a defence of why you should listen to some of the groom’s weird wedding ideas…

He Wants to Say His Vows in Klingon

Klingon is an incredibly efficient language. Did you know that it only has one word for the colours green, blue and yellow? Think of how much time that would save when planning the colour scheme of a wedding. APPROVED.

He Wants you to Dress as Princess-Leia-Hutt-Prisoner-Era

Yes, it’s a bit weird that he wants you to dress in a metal bikini and stick Danish pastries on your head. But it’s only because he thinks you would look super-hot. As long as he’s not dressed as Skywalker (that’s her brother, remember?), where’s the harm? If you have to refuse, why not promise it to him for the honeymoon? PART-APPROVED.

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